First dates are tough. For those who haven’t gone on a lot of them, it can pose an intimidating question: what should you talk about? Even I get tongue-tied every now and then, something surprising when you consider I work in public relations and advertising (with a degree in psychology).
If ever you’re one of those people who are easily rattled during awkward pauses, here are the 10 questions you can ask on your first date:
- You spot a large ipis a foot away from you. Would you kill it with Baygon or tsinelas?
- What’s the achievement you’re most proud of?
- Do you like parties or small gatherings?
- Do you consider yourself spontaneous or a planner?
- Would you rather be someone’s first love or their last forever?
- Do you believe in tadhana?
- Are you close with your family?
- Do you think it’s the little things or grand gestures that count the most?
- Would you describe yourself as more of an optimist, pessimist, or realist?
- Have you ghosted someone before?
These questions are random enough but say a lot about them. Are they brave enough to get close to a cockroach? Or are they more comfortable killing it from a distance? A person’s relationship with his family speaks volumes, too.
Sure, some of these questions are deep but if you want to get to know your date on a deeper level right away, these questions will help you.
These questions are courtesy of OkCupid, an online dating app. They sent over a deck of cards with 50 tips, ranging from the random (Are you a dog or cat person?) to the profound (Name the best and worst advice someone has given you). In case it doesn’t work out, it gives you insight into the inner workings of a near-stranger. As a writer, I find this extremely fascinating.
Similar to this deck, OkCupid has an algorithm that is programmed to match people based on their similarities, which translates into a compatibility rating. That way, you and your match have something more in common, aside from being physically attracted to each other.
I haven’t tried OkCupid yet but I love to go on dates and meet new and random people (who usually end up as friends). I’ll be sure to give it a try… and use these awesome cards!